A few years back when 2 of my friends (in their early 20s) were getting married & they were good friends with a lot of people so they had trouble deciding who they should invite to their wedding. As much as they want to invite every single one of them there, it was simply not possible due to many things (and you would know since you are in the same wedding planning boat!). A close friend suggested something that I would remember for the rest of my life, she simply said, “Only invite the people who you think will still be doing life together in the future.” You know those light bulb moments that you have a few times in your life? Well ding! I had one of those! That was so powerful because a lot of us live in the “now” & rarely think about the long term. It was still difficult for my friends to cut the list to half but it was much easier narrowing it down to the people who they see a future with.
In the process of choosing the right people for your guest list, you might hurt some people but you have to do what is right for the both of you at the end of the day. The truth is that not everyone are meant to stay in your life, some are only here for a season. It doesn’t mean you just kick them out of your life now but instead learn to know when to let go! Seasons change, people move on. It’s as simple as that. On the other hand, there are some people who stand out a bit more & they are forever friends that are worth fighting for! Wedding planning can be stressful at times.. But don’t ever let a wedding come between you & your friends/family.
I love this quote from Hp Lyrikz, “You have to let people go. Everyone who’s in your life are meant to be in your journey, but not all of them are meant to stay till the end.”
Dear Bride, hope you are enjoying your wedding planning journey! How’s your guest list looking so far? I hope this little but profound tip helped you with putting your guest list together! Let me know how you are going, I would love to hear from you in the comment below! x
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